Here goes:
So I often get asked the question "What's it like to be a
twin?" and my response is usually the same, "Well, I don't know what
it's like to not be a twin!"
Over the past few months this answer has made me laugh on numerous
occasions and more often than not when I am talking with my husband. You
see he has taught me a lot, as far as growing up and being independent, but he
still stumbles upon those difficult moments where he just can't quite get
me to see why, for some, having your twin sister in the room when your getting a
flu shot or running it by your twin sister whenever you need to make any kind
of choice or decision, no matter how small or really tiny or simply
miniscule of a choice or decision that might be, can seem a little crazy.
I would then go through the process of trying to explain to him that it's
completely, 100% normal that up until a few months ago I'd never driven a car
without my sister in the passenger seat, I'd never been to the grocery store
without my sister by my side, I'd rarely venture out the house without my
sister coming with me and don't get me started on going shopping, getting the
bus, getting a job and really anything you think of that usually only
takes one, confident, independent 25 year old!
Now I may be exaggerating slightly as we have faced those moments
where we have had to be split up and besides the worry while we are away from
each other, we always manage to cope...funny that! :p We have heard all the
'You can't be together all the time.' 'You will have to learn to live without
each other eventually.' etc and as with anything, we have got used to change.
We are both now married and live in separate apartments, 15 mins from each
other and the separation has been good for us. We like having that little bit
of me time!
When we were younger, we were the twins that couldn't grasp how
other twins weren't as close to one another and it would genuinely make us sad
when we came across twins that didn't hang out together and actually didn't
like being twins. Without thinking too much about 'being a twin' we
just loved being together and proceeded to do everything together. It was and
still is a comfort to have her by my side. We grew up loving the same things,
although we both have very different personalities, our interests were pretty
much exactly the same. We both love working with children and went to the same
college, did the same course and got jobs...in different schools! That was
actually a lot of fun and was more or less our first taste of going 8 hours
without seeing each other. And yes, we would miss each other and look forward
to getting home so we could chat about our days. At around 16 we
began following our dream together and have done so for the past 9 years. It
led us to America and to our husbands, it bought a long with it our
own separate, unique stories and our first experience with wanting different
things.
This is how close my twin sister and I are, even though for the
past 8 months she has wanted to begin a new chapter she has stuck by me and
stayed with me all because I couldn't bare to be without her. This goes
back to what I was saying about the whole what seems crazy to others is not
crazy to us. At 25 years old and with a husband you shouldn't have to do
something you don't want to do just because your twin sister wants you too, but
she did. It's a normal thing for us, we always have to make sure somehow, no
matter what, we feel the same. That means talking for hours and going round in
circles till we agree on the same thing. So ultimately one of us is sacrificing
a bit of how they feel to make the other one happy and in this case it was my
Keg (Kelly) doing all she could to keep going to make sure I would be ok.
Well it's funny how the world works and how in sync twins can
actually be, as just a few weeks ago after I got married, I naturally felt
how Kelly felt and understood what she had been going through the past 8 months
and we are back on the same page. We are moving forward and excited about where
we are going! During this time we have dealt with those 'Just because it's
right for her doesn't mean it's right for you' moments and the 'it's ok to not
be doing the same things as each other' speeches. But you know what?...
yesterday I saw my Kelly happy, relaxed and excited for an opportunity, she
looked like herself and acted like herself more than she had in a long time and
In turn I have never felt more happy and content. Knowing that Kelly is
happy makes me truly happy. I breathed and felt calm and it made me think,
although to some our relationship is baffling and silly, I wouldn't have
it any other way! I love her more than anything in this world and there is no
one quite like her. I'm never going to hide being a twin or try and look
different to my twin or not call myself a twin because that is what I am, it's
who I am and is what makes me special!! As Grandad says "She's my
other half."
Thank you Kelly for all that you do for me, for looking after me,
being there for me and for understanding me like no one else. I will now and
forever happily look like a complete fool having to have you by my side
when I need to make a phone call or referring to myself as 'we' when talking to
people!! :)
I feel extremely blessed to have a twin sister and I wouldn't
change it for the world!
So in closing I guess I have a new answer "What's it like to
be a twin?" "It's a blessing and it's AWESOME!!!!!!"
Have a wonderful day!
Love Lucy. xxxx
p.s I also happen to have a little sister too who is beyond
amazing, as we've got older she's more like our triplet and we love her dearly,
more than you can imagine!!! Love you Jen-fer!!! <3
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