5 ideas for self care!


It's very much been a month of having to get my life in order and really learn to take care of myself. Today I thought I would share some of the ways in which I have been paying more attention to my Self Care. I hope that if any of you are going through some difficult times that it will help you too!

1) A little pampering never hurt anyone.


Put your hands up if you ever feel guilty or like you should be doing something else when it comes to relaxing with a face mask or taking the time to exfoliate or run yourself a bath?! I always think it would be nice to light some candles and have some me time and then I get distracted thinking of the many other things I could be doing and I simply don't do it. This past weekend after doing a two hour writing session, I put on some One Direction, enjoyed a hot shower with a delicious smelling body scrub, slathered myself in cream, put on a face mask and made myself a healthy berry and protein smoothie. I did this while concentrating on my breathing and making sure to live in the moment and enjoy each second of taking care of myself, (and each second of Harry Styles voice) and I tell you what, it was much needed. I know we don't always get the time and our schedules can be busy, or if you have kids it can be a difficult task to get alone time, but it's so important to recharge our batteries and feel good about ourselves. Be it the scent of the creams or my skin feeling rejuvenated and fresh, it really helped me to feel happy within myself.

2) Getting your feelings out.


If it feels like there's a lot going on inside your head and you feel like you are going in circles talking to yourself, reach out to people you can trust. Talk to your family, talk to your friends or even write your thoughts down, I never go anywhere without a notebook. I know sometimes it can be scary to speak up, but believe me keeping things bottled up is not healthy. There are times when you may figure things out on your own, but for those times when you are hurting and you feel lost, getting advice from someone, or simply just feeling like someone is there to offer their support and listen, can make all the difference. Also, even if you are grateful for your family and friends, if you still feel that you are struggling, don't be afraid to book a counselling session or see a Doctor. You have nothing to be embarrassed about. Just by taking action and booking that appointment you might feel a little better in that you are doing what you need to do in order to learn, grow and make yourself better.


3) Change a habit.


For me this came from learning to focus on what you can control rather than worrying about what you can't control in a situation. Recently I have been learning to switch off my phone. I find I sleep a lot better when I allow myself to wind down at night, rather than scrolling through Instagram. In the morning, I take the time to wake up, stretch, make coffee and I sit and write before I switch my phone on. When I visit my family or spend time with my friends, I put my phone away so I can truly enjoy the time I have with them and what we are doing. Now, I do have friends in different Countries, so I love getting to keep up with them via social media and I love connecting with others online, but sometimes social media isn't always a fun place and they're are things you might not wish to see. Realizing you have control over what you see and knowing when to take a step back can make a huge difference. Though I am forever grateful for my friends who keep up with our long distance relationships, (they are incredibly awesome and I love them,) and I am forever thankful for this blog and other people's amazing blogs, for all the connections and friends made, and for all the love and support lately regarding my book online, it feels good to look up from the screen and appreciate what's in front of me a little more. If you think there's an area of your life that could do with a bit of a switch up, take that step to push yourself out of your comfort zone, even something as small as this has helped my mental state so much.

4) Surround yourself with positivity.


I don't feel that I fully understood this one until recently, as I have always considered myself a positive person. However, I'm also a worrier and an over thinker and can get caught up thinking about how something might go wrong when i'm scared or anxious about it. Therefore, there's a big difference between saying I'm a positive person and speaking in a happy, positive manner, and actually being a positive person and exuding light. I have some friends that believe in the power of crystals, meditating and learning about the universe, speaking with them has helped me so much recently and I am beyond grateful for their outlook on life and all they continue to teach me. I also recently came across Jay Shetty and have been watching and listening to everything I can of his. In addition to my friends, he has been helping me to change my mindset and perspective and to really focus on working on my inner peace and being the best person I can be. I highly recommend watching his videos if you are going through some struggles right now, he is wonderful. Take time to address yourself and ask yourself if you are doing all you can to give love to a situation and give it good energy. At the same time, if you are in a situation or with people that are making you feel drained or negative, assess it and see about how you can change it or remove yourself.


5) Be Thankful.


It's not always easy when going through difficult times to feel thankful. Sometimes the not so fun emotions of anger, pain and hurt can takeover and we find it hard to acknowledge the good that has happened in the day. It's OK, it's understandable, but taking five minutes to take note and say thank you for all the happy things that have happened amidst the hurt can truly make a difference. Writing it down or saying it out loud will start to alleviate the heartache and get your mind to shift to all the positive aspects of your life instead of the negative. In turn you will start to look forward to getting up each day to experience those happy things, say for instance, that morning cup of coffee or getting to see your friends at work or getting to work on that project you love. I started a gratitude journal a week ago and I love it. It sets me up for the day and brings my focus to the love I have around me and gets me thinking about how I can give more love to the world.

If anyone is going through any struggles right now and needs someone to talk to, please don't hesitate to reach out. Or if you have any other tips on self care, I would love it if you shared them in the comments below.

Sending you all nothing but love!

Love

8 comments :

  1. Great post! Getting your feelings out is so important especially for some who have been raised to internalise their feelings, it isn't easy,but so important X

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    1. Thank you Gem. I know, it can be so difficult, but it's so important for your mental health. Thank you so much for reading! <3 xx

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  2. Fabulous post, Lucy. Definitely joining you in these! Love Daisy xx

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    1. Thank you so much Daisy! I'm practicing them every day! Thank you for reading and i hope you're doing well! xx

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  3. This post was so comforting to read and has come at an ideal time. Thank you for writing that, Lucy. :) I have been struggling a lot mentally lately, it’s been a rough year but I am trying to bounce back and keep smiling. I recently had brief conversation with someone who is quite the cynic and the conversation left me feeling “guilty” for always trying to look on the bright side. Normally, I would brush it off but my mental state is overwhelmed right now so it kind of got to me. I’m trying so hard to just live in the moment but it’s been a challenge because I don’t really have anyone to lean on so the weight of the world gets heavy often. You and Kelly’s constant optimism here and on instagram make such a difference to someone like me who sometimes needs reassurance that remaining positive makes all the difference. Thank you.

    Victoria (treelinedavenue)
    I was too lazy to sign in, haha

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    1. Aww Victoria please if you ever need to chat just message! I'm sorry to hear that you've had a rough year. I am sending you so much love and big hugs! I'm truly glad if this post has been of comfort and help. My brain is quite the frazzley place at the moment, so i'm working on these steps every day. It's not always easy but i know in the long run it will help and everything will be ok. If there's ever anything I can do, please let me know! Sending you all the positive vibes and good energy! <3 Lucy xx

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  4. I have this week off, so I'm trying to get my bedroom in order, so it's tidier and more organised! Hopefully that will put me in a better mood and to get more productive! :) Tania Michele xx

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    1. Aww that's always a good place to start Tania. We do that too. We like to everything neat and organized before getting to work on stuff! :) We hope you have a productive week! xxx

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