A friendly reminder to focus.


One day last week I was struggling a little bit. A few plans hadn't quite worked out, I wasn't feeling good, I was homesick and having a down day. I allowed myself to get overwhelmed and lacked motivation to get out of my pajamas and make the day productive. I felt lost and the negative thoughts started piling up. I ended up reaching for my phone and sending a ten minute Voxer to my brother, rambling away, sharing my thoughts and explaining how I felt. What he said back was just what I needed to hear, whether I liked it or not.

I don't believe I am lazy or scared of hard work, in fact I feel I can be confident enough to say that I am a damn hard worker and will bust my ass with any job or task I am given. However, over time I have complied quite the list of dreams and goals I want to accomplish and it has come to my attention that in giving myself so many goals, I tend to lose focus. Now, if I spend each day working on each of my goals you might be wondering what the problem is? Well, you see, sometimes one goal can take priority over another goal, I can spend more time on one than the other, maybe one day I feel it's OK to skip working on one because I'm so busy working on the other, and it becomes a somewhat vicious cycle. I tell myself I'm not putting off writing that chapter, it's just I'm tired from work and the gym and I need to cook, clean and spend time with my husband. I tell myself I'll test that recipe out another time because I'm cutting, I can't eat it now and I have to sit here and work on promoting the blog before I go to the gym. The goals get pushed around and it can feel like I'm taking one step forward and two steps back, or that while one goal might be getting closer to being achieved, another is way far behind.

Last year was awesome, I was so proud of all that I achieved at the gym. I loved training with my brother and was so happy with the results that I got. But it wasn't until that day last week that it occurred to me how much focus I had given to the gym. I went to bed dreaming about my workouts, I was constantly talking to everyone about working out. I was researching, watching people, talking to people, all who loved the gym too.  Then during this down day I found myself getting frustrated about some other goals I had, I was angry and sad and felt like they weren't possible and that I should be further along with them by now. It wasn't until I spoke to my brother and he talked to me about focus that it actually clicked. He asked me what I wanted to do in life, what my passion was, my answer was 'I want to write.' He asked me if I was spending every second working on that passion and trying to make that goal a reality, my answer was 'no'. I wasn't further a long with my writing goals, not because they weren't possible, but because quite simply I was not working on them enough.


You constantly hear me go on about how proud I am of my brother and all that he is doing, but that day last week I had a whole new respect for him, so much so that I am teary just writing this. He has achieved great things, not by luck but through pure hard work. He eats, sleeps and breathes strongman and training. He goes on courses, reads countless books, all to be the best personal trainer he can be. My focus on the gym was great and that isn't about to stop, however I think I was being too nice to myself regarding other aspects of working hard. I procrastinated with other dreams and in a way I got lazy. Some dreams are harder than others and they will take more focus. It's OK to have many dreams but you can't start becoming impatient and frustrated if you are not giving something your all. In talking to my brother I realized I was talking about making other things happen and not making enough time for them, not doing enough. I was putting up obstacles and allowing fear to take over, in addition to placing my priorities else where, rather than focusing on the main goal, to write a book.

I'm not saying you can't have more than one dream, (I love doing this blog too) or that you have to stop running errands, going to work, or multi tasking, but if you ever have a day where you are feeling frustrated that a goal you are aiming for isn't coming to fruition, stop, take a step back and ask yourself, really be honest with yourself; are you making sure to wake up every single day with that same goal in mind? Are you achieving things daily to make that specific goal happen? Are you putting your heart and soul into making that dream a reality?

Chris recently wrote this amazing article (scroll down to January 9th: goals and consistency) that I have read a few times, it makes so much sense. It is in relation the gym but I think it can be adapted to anything in life. I need to make sure I keep his words in my mind each day and now go forth an FOCUS!!!

I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. Are you good at multi-tasking? Do you give yourself too much to do? How do you stay focused on your main goal?

Have a wonderful day.

8 comments :

  1. I hear you loud and clear on this. There are so many things that I want to do, but with having a full-time job (which is obviously a must - money is key!) it makes all of the dreams and goals I have much harder to attain. There is so much more I would love to do with my blog, but with the time I have to actually give to it I can only do so much. And since I'm focusing so much of my free time and energy on that, I'm neglecting other things I love doing. It's just a never-ending cycle of being excited about doing something, getting really into it, not having enough time for it, repeat.

    I have been wanting to work on my focus more this year and this motivates me even more, and lets me know I'm not the only one who is going through this. Everything nowadays is just so fast-paced and we want everything to happen immediately that sometimes I forget that things take hard work and a ton more focus to come true. But if/when you hit that goal in the long run, it's SUCH a wonderful feeling!!

    Katie | www.overthemoony.com

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    1. Aww I appreciate you understanding so much Katie and hope you are able to take time to focus on what you love and want to do. It can be so tricky and I am still learning. Since writing this post I have been taking baby steps to remember each day to work on the big picture and the thing that is most important to me. But it is still very much a balancing act of things that need to be done and prioritizing. I believe you can do it though!!! :) And yes, I totally agree with things not happening immediately and just having patience, because when you reach a goal, it is most definitely a wonderful feeling. :)
      Thank you so much for reading! xxx

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  2. Thanks Lucy! I needed this and I do this very same thing. I know I'm quite the dreamer, which is something I love about me, but can be quite overwhelming. I feel as I'm all over the place with my goals and forget to remind myself to fully go after the dream that means the most to me.

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    1. Sarah, you are the best and I love and miss you loads. I can very much relate to feeling all over the place and I am really trying to breathe and take things one step at a time. I love that you are a dreamer too and I have no doubt in my mind you can achieve everything and anything you set your mind too! I feel it can help just taking one day at a time and making sure you do a little each day of what makes your soul happy, making sure to put that dream that means the most to you at the forefront of your mind. :) You can do it! Love you bunches! xxxxx

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  3. Brilliant post, Lucy! I can really relate to this. I quite often have so many goals floating around my head that I forget to devote most of my attention to my biggest one: my blog. I think it happens to the best of us. Thanks for reminding me to focus more and really work super-hard like your awesome brother! I can't wait for the day I get to buy and read your book :D
    Steph x. Hello, Steph Blog

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    1. Aww Steph, you are the best and that just made me so happy and excited. Thank you for believing in me with my book, that honestly meant the world to me. :) Your blog is already incredible and brilliant and one of my absolute favourites. I have no doubt it will continue to grow and grow with all your awesome ideas. Never stop being you and being creative, I know you can do it! :) xxxx

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  4. Very inspiring post, Lucy! I can relate to this so much. It's been happening a lot lately where I have so many interests and want to spend enough time with each thing but in reality, I always come back to the same things (right now, finishing my degree is my main thing for practical reasons but on my spare time I keep spending all my time working on my blog and photography- it's become a huge passion).

    Your brother sounds like a super cool guy- you both are so lucky to have each others' support. I definitely think you're on the right track to achieving your writing goals- it's just every so often we have an off day but I think that serves as an extra "push" to get us motivated again. I'm a firm believer that once you achieve your main goal, all the other little goals just fall into place and more opportunities present themselves- like a domino effect. :)

    <3

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    1. Aww thank you so much Victoria! :) I completely understand that, it must be very hard balancing a degree with all the other things you want to do, but I believe in you and know you can do it. That is definitely top priority, but I hope you can allow little breaks to work on your blog, just as long as when you are working on your main goal you focus! :) It can be a balancing act but you got this !:)

      Yes, my brother is awesome, even if I am a little biased! :p But I feel so lucky to have him by my side! :) I like the sound of the domino effect, it certainly makes sense and taking a break can sometimes be so good for that extra push, you are right!:) xx

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