It's a Twin Thing!!

For the past 26 years, I can safely say that I have known my identity and been rather set and comfortable in it. Of course, like everyone, there's always that awkward stage of trying to figure out who you are, but I never really dwelled on it too much. Like I wrote about in "Just because I walk like Obie Wan Kenobie" I went through phases and most of the time was aware that I didn't fit into the crowds, being a 16 year old girl who liked wrestling and lived out of 'MADE' hoodies and Jeff Hardy t-shirts wasn't really a huge hit with too many people, but to be honest, it didn't matter. It didn't bother me at all, as I always had someone by my side, going through the exact same things as me, who's interests were the same as mine and who loved me for me. I didn't have to be the popular kid or try and be a part of something to gain credibility, as I was content with who I was. I was one half of 'The Girls', one half of 'The Twins, the 'Lucy' in Lucy and Kelly and later, one half of 'The Blossom Twins' and the 'Hannah' in Hannah and Holly. I was a Twin!! :)

It's unfathomable to me when I hear that some twins don't get a long or aren't close, as my sister, Kelly, and I each make up one half of a whole. We grew up glued to each others sides, had the same interests and shared the same dreams. I'm not saying we didn't have our differences, Kelly loved Forever Friends and I was more of a Paws for Thought child. Kelly's favourite animal is a dog, mine a bear. Kelly likes melon and peanuts, I don't and Kelly is more of the organized, logical one, whereas, as my Mum puts it, I'm organized in my own way. :p However drastic our interests were...yes I know :p, they never caused us to go in opposite directions, we loved being together and would often get annoyed if someone tried to suggest splitting us up. We dealt with it when we were put in different classes in High School but we didn't like it. We would separate when we wanted too but if it was someone else's idea we would get pretty stubborn and angry towards them. In addition, during High school, I remember we used to get so mad at each other when one of us were sick, for instance, I would get extremely upset with Kelly, if she was poorly, for 'making' me go to school on my own., the 5 minute walk to get there would become about 20 minutes, as I just couldn't bare to go without her by my side.

As we got older Mum and Dad would slowly start to set us certain tasks that involved spending a little more time a part. We worked at our Auntie's jewelry shop together every Saturday, but during the Summer holidays they would have us go during the week on different days. We didn't have mobile phones back then, so every lunch time we would ring each other on the landline and catch up. What can I say, it was a very slow progress! :p

At 14 years old we decided we were going to be professional wrestlers. At 16 years old we attended Stockport college, both doing a course in Childcare. Again, college kept us close as we weren't fond of being in social settings when we didn't know the other people, but wrestling on the other hand started to open us up to a world of independence. And, I admit, it wasn't so bad. After completing our college course, we would go on to work in different schools, which we thoroughly enjoyed and at the end of the day we would look forward to telling each other about what we had been up to during the day. And when our wrestling dream lead us to Louisville KY, it was just another push in the right direction in showing us that being apart wasn't such a negative thing.

5 years, boyfriends, trips, holidays and getting married, later, I have to say, has left us able to cope more with being a part and experiencing our own things without the other there. If you go back and read "What it's like having a twin sister." I admit there were still days during the past 5 years where I didn't want to go shopping without her, drive somewhere without her or ring someone up without her (again...I know :p) but I think we grew to find a reasonable balance. We liked having time to ourselves, decorating our own apartments, to which Kelly's was more 50's diner, mine more music, books and picture themed, and we would even venture out to public places and hang out with people on our own. Now, considering that when growing up "on my own" meant "Kelly and I", that's a big step! :p

Yesterday, Kelly and my brother in law, Chris, moved to Orlando, Florida and I don't think it's quite going to sink in for another week or so, I mean I miss her already (and Chris too :p) but, like I mentioned above, we've had a week long trips and holidays apart here and there before. I am extremely excited for her to begin this new chapter and also for me to begin this new journey too, but I'm not sure what's in store. It's always been easy to break the ice when in public together, near enough every occasion brings up "Are you two twins?" which often leads to nice conversations and allows me to be confident when meeting new people. It's an easy topic, an ice breaker and a confidence boost, "Yes we are twins." "I'm older by a minute." "I'm the big sister." "Yes, it's awesome being a twin." and so forth. Like I talked about above, it's who I am and my identity. I feel like now I am starting a fresh and going to really have to figure out who I am without her. I don't mean to sound dramatic, as it's something to focus on and challenge myself with and I am very much looking forward to it, but it's most definitely a giant step outside my comfort zone.

Since we were 12 we dreamed of being a tag team together, we did it, we made it happen together. Now, living in separate places and taking a break from the squared circle, who knows where dreaming big will take us!!! :) Watch this space! :)

In closing, I wish Kelly and Chris so much success and happiness with all things to come, I am so incredibly proud of you both and know you can do anything you set your minds too! :) Love you with all my heart for always! <3

Have a beautiful day everyone!

Love Lulu xx

 
One half of The Blossom Twins! :)

 
Looking a little bit more like Twins! :p

 
Our baking days together! :)

 
Living far away from both my sisters now! :( Love them both more than anything! <3

4 comments :

  1. Loved this post! Thanks for sharing!

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  2. Such a cute post! I can relate as I'm a twin too!

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